I've been a little obsessed with something this week and I can't stop thinking about it, so naturally... you're coming with me.
Here's something I learned this week: humans don't have hydro-receptors. Which means, technically, we have never actually felt "wetness." Not once. Not. Even. Once.
I know. Mind blown... And you're probably thinking, "ummm Renae, I absolutely know what 'wetness' feels like", but stay with me.
What we actually feel is a combination of the change in temperature and texture. Our brain takes those two signals, runs them through its very impressive internal algorithm, and hands us back the experience of "wet."
We didn't choose that. We didn't decide it. Our bodies just... adapted. They built a workaround so seamless that we've never once questioned it.
And here's your proof: have you ever reached for a t-shirt that was hanging outside at dusk and thought — is this wet? Or is it just cold?
That pause. That confusion. That's the crack in the story. That's your body momentarily running out of enough data to fake it convincingly.
We don't know what wetness feels like. Our brain just knows the difference. And it has always been enough.
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My hairdresser and I have something in common — we are both basically blind without our glasses, and we accept that fate. I nearly ate the floor walking back from the shampoo bowl the other day because I had taken mine off for my cut.
We were laughing about it when she said something that brought me back to the "wetness" obsession. She was trying to describe to someone with perfect vision what it actually feels like to take your glasses off when your vision is terrible.
It's not just that you can't see — but that everything becomes such a blur, that you can't even distinguish color from the void. "I couldn't tell you what color your eyes are", she said. "Not because I can't see color. Because there's nothing distinct enough left to attach it to."
And she said: I don't even know how to explain it to someone who hasn't felt it.
That's what hit me. Because how often are we doing that — trying to translate an experience across a gap that the other person simply doesn't have the receptor for yet?
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Think about the last time a conversation with someone you love went sideways. You said what you meant. You meant what you said. And somehow it still... didn't land.
What if the problem isn't that they weren't listening? What if they just don't have the receptor for the way you're transmitting?
Here's what I keep coming back to: if our bodies figured out wetness without a single receptor for it — if we built an entire workaround using temperature and texture and just made it work — then we are capable of far more adaptation than we give ourselves credit for.
So when verbal communication hits the same wall for the tenth time, maybe the question isn't "why won't they just understand me." Maybe it's: how can I adapt? What other language is available to me here? What am I transmitting that I haven't named yet?
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Because here's what I DO know: we are all emitting a frequency. Nikola Tesla figured that out in the late 1800s. And we're emitting it constantly. Without realizing it.
It's not something you read, or hear, or even see. It's something you feel. A universal language that exists underneath all the words we keep reaching for — and most of us have never been taught how to understand it, let alone speak it on purpose.
Some of you caught a glimpse of this last week when I mentioned the sheepdog framework — the idea that energy in a room, in a relationship, in a dynamic, can be shifted. Like a sheepdog moves a field. Not by force. By presence.
I've been sitting with that framework, shaping it, finding its edges. And it has a name now.
Energetic Intelligence: Relational Rewire.
And I'm hosting a free workshop to introduce the upcoming beta cohort to you properly — to teach you energetic intelligence as a language. What it is, how to start recognizing it, and how to use it to stop repeating yourself, speaking louder, arguing in circles, and feeling like you're throwing yourself against a brick wall while the other person just... shuts down.
Because that pattern is not a you problem. It's a frequency problem. And it's fixable.
Want to be the first to know when the workshop drops?
Grab a spot on my calendar and let's talk. I'd love to connect before the doors open.
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This Week's Practice — Notice Before You Speak
The frequency check-in
- Before your next difficult conversation, pause and ask: what am I actually feeling right now — not thinking, feeling?
- Notice what's in your body. Tightness, warmth, distance, pull — whatever is there without editing it.
- Ask yourself: is this something I can put words to, or is it something I'm going to have to transmit another way?
- Let that question sit. You don't have to solve it — just get curious about the gap between what you feel and what you know how to say.
We are adaptive creatures. We always have been. And sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is stop insisting on the one language that isn't working — and start paying attention to the ones that already are.
🎧 This Week on the Hustle Rebels Podcast
In case you missed this week's episode... I got pretty personal. This one is a solo episode about the beliefs driving your burnout that you never actually chose — and why changing your habits, your schedule, even your job title won't touch them.
I even share a story I've never told publicly, and break down why behavior change keeps failing without identity work underneath it. If something in your life keeps feeling stuck no matter what you do, start here.
Up next on Hustle Rebels:
I'm sitting down with Kai Brown — a young entrepreneur who grew up with parents that never passed their limiting beliefs onto him about culture, money, or expectations. He's built his life and his work around helping others dismantle theirs. He's grounded, he's sharp, and to be honest, this conversation shifted something in me. I think it'll do the same for you.
🎧 Listen here: [Why You Can't Outwork a Belief You Never Chose | Burnout, Identity & the RAS]
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