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Don't trust the faster lane in traffic…

…it usually just creates more chaos (and accidents...).

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What We’ll Cover This Week:

• Why I don't chase the faster lane
• The difference between fast people and steady people
• How one reactive driver wrecks everyone's nervous system
• A tool for checking who you're actually driving next to

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Hey Reader,

I was sitting in traffic the other day while driving to Buffalo, NY and something dawned on me...

There was a lane next to me clearly moving faster. And I didn't move into it. And I thought to myself "I often don't move into the lane that's moving faster... why is that?"

Not necessarily because I'm patient. Because when it comes to traffic... I am anything but patient. I stayed because I looked at the people in front of me and behind me and thought: these are smart drivers. They know how to drive traffic. They're not slamming their brakes every three seconds. They're not railing up behind me. They're not being radical shitheads about it.

They're capable. And being surrounded by capable people made me feel safe enough to just... stay.

So I let the faster lane go. Because fast is not the same as safe.

And this is what popped into my brain. I wasn't choosing my lane based on speed. I was choosing it based on the quality of the people around me.

And that's kind of a whole life thing, isn't it.

We're trained to jump into whatever lane looks like it's winning. Whoever's moving fastest, whoever looks like they've got their shit together — they're the ones we trust. We dart over there thinking that's where we're supposed to be.

The trainer who's in peak physical shape. The business person who drives the expensive car. The professor with all the accolades.

But steady beats flashy almost every time. The people who don't panic, who don't jerk the wheel, who can actually handle the conditions — those are the ones worth staying next to. And sometimes, it's the unassuming ones you can trust the most. The ones without any false promises or terrible side-effects.

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Then you have the brake-slammer effect. So let's talk about the other kind of driver.

When someone's darting around and slamming on their brakes, they're not just messing with their own nervous system. They're messing with everyone's.

One reactive driver sends a ripple straight down the road. Brake lights, tension, everybody flinching. Unsettled nervous systems all the way back. It creates this domino effect of radical emotions and feelings — and here's the ironic part — it actually slows everything down.

The chaos doesn't get anyone there faster. It just makes the whole road tense and burnt out.

Same is true with people. You can feel it in your body when you're around someone who's constantly reacting, jerking, panicking. It doesn't just cost them. It costs everyone in range.

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So I guess the tortoise was right.

And the best part? The lane-hopper who cut across four lanes to get ahead is usually sitting right next to you at the next light anyway.

All that effort. All that stress. Same result.

So maybe the move isn't to chase the fast lane. Maybe it's to find the steady drivers, settle in, and let the ones slamming their brakes wear themselves out.

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This Week's Practice: The lane check

Next time you feel the urge to dart — to jump ship, chase the faster-looking option, or react to someone else's chaos — pause and ask:

1. Who's actually around me right now? Steady people, or brake-slammers?
2. Am I moving because it's actually better, or because it just *looks* faster or better?
3. If I stay put and breathe, does the panic pass?

Most of the time the faster lane isn't faster. And the people worth driving next to are the ones who don't make you flinch.

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I've got a new space over on Skool

And I'm pretty stoked about this.

It's a place to go deeper — to actually learn about your nervous system, how to recognize burnout before it burns you to the ground, and how to work with your body instead of against it. And it's a community, so you're learning alongside other people figuring out the same stuff, not doing it alone.

Inside that space I'll also be hosting the Regulation Room — a weekly live where we chat about all this shit together and I do short lessons based on what YOU guys want to dig into more. Not me talking at you. Us, in a *virtual* room, working through it.

Next week will be the official launch, so click the button below to join and introduce yourself before the kickoff!

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🎧 This Week on the Hustle Rebels Podcast

🎙️ Missed last week's episode? I sat down with Ryan Syverson, who spent seven years fighting Lyme and mold illness after a full-on burnout crash — the kind where it took him 45 minutes just to get out of bed while every doctor told him his labs looked fine.

What finally moved the needle for him wasn't another protocol. It was doing less. Because burnout recovery doesn't work when your nervous system doesn't feel safe — no amount of sleep, vacation, or supplements will override that.

We get into the "check engine light" your body runs for years before the crash, why forcing yourself to relax actually backfires, and what it means to grieve the identity that burned out instead of trying to revive it.

If you know how to work hard and you're starting to add up what it's costing you — you'll love this episode.

Watch on YouTube:

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Listen Here: [Burnout Recovery: Why Rest Isn't Working — Lyme, Mold & Nervous System Healing w/ Ryan Syverson]

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Stay in your lane. The good, steady one. The one with the steady people.

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- Renae

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