Hey Reader,
When you work 24+ hours straight with people, you end up in some weird-ass conversations.
And by “weird,” I mean: “Are we really talking about this right now?”
One day on shift, someone asks:
“Do you wash your legs in the shower?”
Suddenly the entire crew just looks at him.
Then one guy goes:
“No. I wash everything down to my legs. The runoff handles the rest.”
Runoff.
RUNOFF.
My guy…
That’s not hygiene.
That’s spiritual surrender.
We all stared at him like he was an alien, and he stared back like WE were the ones wasting precious minutes scrubbing calves and bottoms of our feet like our lives depended on it.
We never fully finished the debate because we got a call and it continued as far as the hallway and into the trucks...
But that moment stuck with me.
Because it reminded me that everyone has their own way of doing things.
And to them, it makes perfect sense.
Cue my mini-crisis two weeks ago.
I had a full-blown “what the hell am I doing?” meltdown about my business and marketing.
I’ve been:
- following the marketing coach playbooks
- checking every box
- doing every task they swear “works every time”
- investing more money and time than I care to admit
…and the result?
Crickets.
Stress.
A slow existential collapse. Especially when I crave immediate results...Like putting pads on someone's chest who's in a third degree heart block - barely coherent - then start pacing them at a heart rate of 60 bpm, immediately see a sinus rhythm, then have them talking to us like a normal human, asking if they'll be able to order lunch for free at the ER.
So last week, I finally said:
What if THEIR blueprint isn’t MY blueprint?
Because historically?
Every time I’ve thrown out the rulebook — which, let’s be honest, is kind of on brand for me — THAT’S when things start clicking.
Not when I follow instructions like a good little soldier.
Which reminded me of something from a podcast I listened to on my drive home to visit my family:
👉 A Bit of Optimism — this episode:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-bit-of-optimism/id1515385282?i=1000724542172
He talks about how happiness isn't about having deadlines, hitting goals and following the structure laid out by societal rules instead of trusting how you naturally work.
It hit me like a brick.
Because that’s exactly what I teach...and apparently needed to relearn myself.
Lean in with me...
**Your body rebels the moment you follow a blueprint that isn’t yours.**
When you’re forcing a strategy that doesn’t match your wiring, your nervous system goes straight into:
- tension
- doubt
- overthinking
- burnout vibes
- “maybe I’ll move to the woods” energy
Your body doesn’t lie.
It whispers, then it nudges, then it flips the damn table.
But when you shift back into alignment — YOUR way, YOUR rhythm, YOUR blueprint — your whole system exhales.
Which is funny, because…
Burn the Blueprint is literally the program I built for moments like this - but it never saw the light of day. Just sat on the shelf like some forgotten relic with way too much potential.
Maybe it’s time I bring that theme back to the forefront.
Because clearly, this lesson is universal:
Stop stuffing yourself into someone else’s system.
Speaking of which... I Want Your Opinion
I’ve been getting the itch to revive my Burn the Blueprint 4-week self-paced program — the one that goes deeper into the stuff we all carry but rarely notice:
- the hidden beliefs that keep you stuck
- the unconscious rules you’re still following from childhood, religion, relationships, or old workplaces
- the internal “blueprints” you didn’t choose but somehow ended up living by
- the parts of you that go into survival mode the second you step out of line
Basically… all the quiet conditioning that dictates your behavior until you finally call it out.
So I want to ask you — genuinely:
👉 Would YOU want something like this if I released it?
If you’re open to sharing, just hit reply and tell me honestly.
Yes, no, maybe, “eh, not for me” — I’m good with all of it.
Your feedback helps me decide whether this should stay in the vault…
or finally see daylight.
Because a lot of you are carrying blueprints you didn’t create…
and I’m starting to think it might be time to burn them again.
I'll leave you with this: The 2-Minute Body Scan
Want to know instantly if you’re aligned or forcing it? Your body will tell you before your brain ever catches up.
Try this body scan I recorded to help you follow along with:
Find it here ➤ [2-minute Body Scan]
When you’re done, ask:
“What part of my body needs permission right now?”
Permission to pause?
Permission to shift gears?
Permission to stop forcing something that isn’t yours?
Your body knows the truth long before your brain stops arguing with it.
See you next Wednesday - and as always, if you liked this, forward it to a friend so they can join the fam too.
- Renae